Got a message from a former student ealier today that one of her classmates (also a former student student) met with an accident in the early hours of the New Year day. My student was seriously injured and the friend whom she ferried passed on at the scene. When I visited her, she was in SICU and was to go for another operation. She was conscious and recognised me but she insistently told the nurses that she did not want the operation and just wanted to know if her friend whom she ferried was ok or not. I could not lie nor tell the truth but could only tell her that I want to see her walking back to school. I told her she must leave it to good hands now that she is in the hosp. She should leave it to her parents whom have consented to her operation.
I appreciate the guilt feelings one may harbour and it would take time to accept it, but we are on this earth for a reason. If we are not due, we have to make the best of this life. May be she now has two missions in her life. One of her own and the other her friend's.... that really makes it more important that she pulls through and continues in her challenge in life. I wish she recover fully to face the world again.
And to the rest of you... we only pass this earth but once. Make this appearance in this world a worthy one.
Yes, we must cherish what we have on this world. I wish that she will be well too. I was planning to visit her today but I think her family is restricting any more visitors for fear of infection.
ReplyDeleteVisited her last week and again on Sun. Rather swollen and still on artifical ventilation - of cos by now - trachy. Very much saddened by what I saw. Where was the usual bubbling her? Yes, it is hidden myself this body. She looked at me in between her awakened moments but I doubted she registered what she saw. I could only assure her and myself that this state would pass.
ReplyDeleteSeize the day, I told my bachelor friends when I met them for dinner. One believes in saving for the unexpected future while the other believes that it is important to be comfortable while we are still healthy. I do not know for sure.
Medical expenses will be high as my and the younger generation live longer and without medical benefits. A great burden it would be for the family and ourselves, esp with small families nowadays.
How can healthcare be cheaper? We need nurses and nurses (like all people) want better pay. Everyone demands better care and of cos more investigations and treatment. Or shd we go back to basic - physical assessments instead of costly investigation? basic care instead of advanced care? I do not know?
Another friend was diagnosed advanced cancer with 6 mths prognosis? If it is me, would I opt for further investigation and treatment or go travel and die peacefully (or miserably) in some corner of the world?
Most glad to share that Jin Yu is so much better today. Off ventilator on trachy mask. able to trecognise me and not as bloated. Though she was unable to communicate by words but she is v sure that she is coming back to college when she is well again. I told now that she has experienced as a patient, she must be better informed of how one feels and that will make her a better nurse! WIshing her the best in her recovery.
ReplyDeleteI am embarrassed for feeling that it might be kinder that she passed on when I saw how bloated she was when I saw her 2 visits ago.
ReplyDeleteCompared to the last visit, she had even improved much more. She is transferred to HD today and able to talk. Life is really consisted of battles. I am most happy that she is winning this battle.
I am ashamed of my own weakness and for giving up so easily. I have not valued life enough. Her father whom I have met in 3 occasions is visibly happier and chattier. I am happy for him. he has never given up despite financial difficulties. As an odd-job labourer, he is stronger (character) and loves life more. I must learn from this.
Life is good and Life goes on.
ReplyDeleteDespite setbacks, Life will triumph.
Remember that it is darkest before dawn.
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